Bennifer proves that celeb divorces are a dropping sport

An occasion as seismic as Bennifer 2.0 might solely finish in a PR showdown. After months of breakup rumors, real-estate information, and a canceled tour, Jennifer Lopez lastly filed for divorce from her husband Ben Affleck on August 20, citing “irreconcilable variations.” That date additionally marks the second anniversary of their lavish wedding ceremony ceremony in Georgia. It looks like this breakup isn’t only a unhappy affair however a bitter one, too.

Their antics within the press say as a lot. In the event you take note of how celebrities use the tabloid press and their very own lore to form public opinion, a few narratives are forming. There are already quite a few stories from unnamed sources alleging Affleck’s chilly habits towards Lopez, appearing distant towards her whereas they supposedly tried to work by their points. In the meantime, Affleck has remained largely quiet, with sources claiming he needs a extra “civilized” divorce. Given the general public’s notion of Lopez because the extra attention-seeking accomplice of their marriage, that is probably a PR technique of its personal.

From a publicity angle, it appears like Lopez has extra to lose. For a singer whose picture violently swings between Hollywood icon and celeb laughingstock, divorcing the so-called love of her life — additionally, the topic of her newest musical period, which became an epic failure — places her in a weak place but once more. We haven’t even gotten to the inevitable battle over cash, contemplating the previous couple wed reportedly and not using a prenuptial settlement. If the estimates tossed round for his or her internet worths are true — and for those who can’t belief CelebrityNetWorth.com, who are you able to belief? — Lopez has considerably extra to lose than Affleck. She’s additionally forgoing authorized illustration, which looks like a worse determination than a self-funded $20 million film.

Like most celeb divorces, mudslinging and tabloid leaks are baked into the method. Nonetheless, for 2 seasoned A-listers who’ve already skilled private {and professional} challenges within the limelight, one other media circus looks like a waste of power. Past perhaps entertaining the general public, there aren’t any new stakes. The Bennifer drama forces us to ask the query: Does anybody win in a celeb divorce?

To date, neither social gathering has commented immediately on the divorce (though a rep for Affleck shut down rumors that he was courting RFK Jr.’s daughter Kick Kennedy). As a substitute, it seems that they’re letting anonymously sourced stories and photographed outings create narratives for them. Many of the “sources” appear to be engaged on Lopez’s behalf, which isn’t a shock on condition that she initiated the divorce and appears, effectively, annoyed. It’s additionally notable that a number of of those exclusives are coming from Individuals, a tabloid with a fame for working immediately with celebrities and their publicists. In the meantime, Affleck is seemingly making an attempt to keep away from trying just like the “most divorced man,” a title he earned after his cut up with Jennifer Garner in 2015. Days after Lopez’s divorce submitting, he was photographed choosing up a Jack within the Field supply at his new LA dwelling, a throwback to his days choosing up Dunkin’ Donuts throughout the pandemic the place his relatable dad persona actually took form.

These accounts recommend that Lopez was uncared for by Affleck within the marriage and tried her finest to make issues work, a story that mimics the ending of their first go-around in 2001. Earlier this week, an unique from Individuals mentioned that Affleck had not given her “any indicators that he needs to proceed their marriage.” (Court docket paperwork revealed that the couple had been separated since April.) Likewise, a supply near Lopez advised the journal that the singer spent “a whole lot of time ensuring Ben was pleased,” regardless of the actor being “moody and darkish.”

One other narrative that appears to be taking form is that Lopez is making extra of an effort to handle their blended household amid the present chaos. That features Lopez’s twins Max and Emme, from her earlier marriage to singer Marc Anthony, and Affleck’s three youngsters, Violet, Fin, and Samuel, along with his ex-wife Garner, who all lived collectively of their former mansion.

The final time Lopez and Affleck had been noticed collectively was in June for Affleck’s son Samuel’s commencement, when rumors of a breakup first began to emerge. Since then, Lopez has been noticed or photographed on a number of outings with Max and Violet, together with a 4th of July journey to the Hamptons. (Individuals famous that Affleck was again in LA on the time.) Most just lately, the journal reported that Affleck “has not been in contact” with Lopez’s youngsters.

Whereas we haven’t been bombarded with claims about Lopez’s half of their demise or picture ops along with his youngsters, the truth that Affleck just isn’t saying a lot, whereas permitting Lopez to make extra of a present out of their divorce, looks like its personal technique, too.

Since their first breakup, Affleck has given the general public the impression that Lopez was extra comfy within the limelight than him. It’s one thing he reiterates all through Lopez’s Prime documentary The Biggest Love Story By no means Advised, which premiered in February. The actor joked about Lopez’s impulse to publicize every part — together with the stack of affection letters he despatched her earlier than their 2021 reunion — however claimed that he was now prepared to sacrifice his privateness to be along with her.

Likewise, Lopez is portrayed as extra needy for public consideration, whereas Affleck is reluctant to take part in her tasks and public antics. The sheer quantity of paparazzi images of Affleck would instantly dispel this declare, together with these well-known pap walks along with his ex-girlfriend Ana de Armas throughout the pandemic. Days after the divorce, Individuals reported that a number of unnamed sources had advised the publication that Affleck, whose manufacturing firm Artists Fairness took on Lopez’s documentary, had artistic management over the undertaking.

Wanting again on the movie by this lens, you possibly can see how devoted they each are to defending their picture, whereas additionally seemingly a bit clumsy at it. The documentary, which follows the behind-the-scenes making of Lopez’s visible album This Is Me… Now, is stuffed with humiliating and awkward (however extraordinarily amusing) moments that the common pop star these days wouldn’t dream of being broadcast. On the time, the documentary appeared just like the one saving grace in an period of misfires for Lopez, together with a low-performing visible album and a canceled tour. Nonetheless, memes about Lopez — together with a scene the place she’s mythologizing her childhood hairdo — took off, along with random clips of Lopez supposedly displaying diva habits.

Whereas Lopez struggled to make the general public care about her new music, she stored individuals invested in her private life with Affleck. The odd-couple dynamic they portrayed within the movie was candy and admirable. Lopez was depicted because the outgoing accomplice with unrealistic ambitions, whereas Affleck appeared just like the pragmatic however doting husband who supported his spouse’s goals. A memorable scene within the documentary exhibits Affleck boosting Lopez’s confidence when she’s feeling uncertain throughout the filmmaking course of. Now, it’s arduous to not surprise how a lot of this documentary elements into Affleck’s seeming escape plan.

With new exclusives concerning the particulars of their relationship arriving every day, it looks like the couple could also be buckling up for a battle which may depart each of their reputations a little bit scathed. For now, although, the media circus largely feels gratuitous. Nevertheless it’s type of a humiliating ritual that these two celebrities from the ’90s would default to.

For one factor, this isn’t the type of explosive divorce that’s instantly inciting followers to take sides. Some social media customers are already calling BS on the narrative that Lopez was too public-facing for Affleck. However for probably the most half, Lopez and Affleck are two sometimes-loved-sometimes-hated celebrities, whose reputations are consistently in flux. Proper now, it doesn’t appear to be the general public at giant is leaping to demonize both of them. The truth that their romantic historical past is reportedly riddled with dysfunction appears to be what makes them relatable and simple to root for.

The divorce announcement itself additionally doesn’t appear that controversial. The main points being revealed presently aren’t that explosive, apart from the suggestion that Affleck has dedication points. It actually just isn’t something just like the years-long fallout between Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie following their divorce, which includes home and youngster abuse allegations and has left Pitt’s picture with a stain — even when he’s nonetheless booked and busy in Hollywood.

It’s arduous to think about these image-altering outcomes for Affleck merely for opting out of a wedding, even when the dissolution was as frosty on his finish as some shiny celeb weeklies have depicted it. And in any case, after all of the breakups and profession hits Lopez has skilled within the public eye, she has confirmed to be one in all our most invincible celebrities. It’s all very predictable and never completely shocking — similar to in the event that they determined to get again collectively 20 years from now.